Vibration is Saying Goodbye

Posted by admin on Nov 19, 2011

By Donna Cunningham, MSW and Deborah Bier, PhD, Vibration’s Co-Editors

Can you believe Vibration Magazine has been around for 14 years?  (Half a Saturn cycle, asserts Ms. Cunningham.)  Hundreds, and hundreds of wonderful articles about one of our favorite topics: vibrational and flower essences.  Fabulous work by scores of writers, practitioners, makers, consutrilliumredpainting-a2dmers.  Beautiful artwork from dozens of sources, including created by ourselves.  Vibration now has thousands of readers from all over the world. And we have come to adore one another, growing to be great friends in the process of creating this publication.

All this success, and we’re writing that Vibration is saying goodbye?! What’s going on??!

Simply put: we are both called to other things. We have reached different stages in our respective lives than were present when Vibration first began.  Donna is mostly now in a retirement mode, and Deborah has taken on new work projects that are consuming her time and energy. We have both felt for a while that it was coming to be time to let Vibration rest on its considerable laurels.  And now that time has arrived.

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Abandonment Issues & Essences for Animals

Posted by admin on Nov 5, 2011

By C.M Barrett, excerpted from Animals Have Feelings, Too: Bach Flower Remedies for Cats and Dogs, Copyright © 2011

21419114.thbSome people think that dogs and cats, because they were long ago wild animals, can simply be dumped and thrive in the outdoor world. This is a dangerous misconception. Over the eons of their association with humans, both dogs and cats have lost many of the traits that enabled them to survive as wild animals. Some of this is due to the selective breeding of pedigreed animals. Some of it comes from the reality that those puppies and kittens that seem friendly and docile are more likely to be adopted and thus have a better chance of surviving. Whatever part of their temperament is genetically based will be passed on.

The bottom line is that domesticated cats and dogs aren’t wild animals. Experts on feral cats say that their life expectancy is about two years. Dogs may live longer because of their tendency to form packs, but their way of life threatens their well-being and often that of humans. Rescued animals have a better chance of survival, but they need extra understanding and care.

Abandoned animals may have special issues about food. Cats or dogs born to a mother who was malnourished during her pregnancy will also be malnourished. They will need extra and high-quality nutrition, and they may at first act frantic about food.

In many cases the same remedy recommendations work for abandonment as work with abuse, and animals often have a history of both issues. They may be highly traumatized. The survival strategies that animals develop to cope with their situations can include aggression, withdrawal, fear, and other negative emotions and behaviors.

Star of Bethlehem. This is the most important Remedy for abused and abandoned animals. All animals (including humans) have the primary goal of surviving and avoiding pain. On this basic level, abused and abandoned animals have experienced severe difficulties in achieving this goal.

Every animal, again including humans, has what is called the primitive or reptilian brain. This brain knows three basic responses: flight, fight, or freeze. Fight and flight are self-explanatory, but the freeze response is more complex and is usually the origin of trauma. In the wild, this doesn’t often occur.

Domesticated animals (and humans) don’t always have access to this life-giving relief. When a chained dog with a natural tendency to obey its master is beaten by that same master, it may neither flee nor fight. Instead it will freeze. The freezing literally imprints the agonizing memory of the beating—and sadly, it may experience more than one—into its awareness. Anything that reminds the dog of that experience will throw it into the same helpless, suffering state.

20836301.thbStar of Bethlehem can help to heal traumatic memories. If you even suspect that these conditions may be part of an animal’s history, recommend it or administer it.

Holly. An animal traumatized by abuse can naturally learn to defend itself with an aggressive front. Animals that display extreme forms of aggression are not considered eligible for adoption.

This Remedy can help mild to moderate cases of aggressive behavior, especially if it is combined with one of the two primary remedies for fear. Holly can also be very valuable for animals that are aggressive in protecting their food supplies.

Mimulus. As you gain experience, you’ll find that close questioning about and observation of the particulars of an animal’s current behavior can
lead you to draw accurate conclusions about the source of its fear. Even if you don’t have specific information, though, the animal knows what frightens
it, and Mimulus, the Remedy for known fears, can be very effective.

Among the emotions abandoned animals may experience, the fear that they will be abandoned again predominates. Their human companions need to consistently give them affection and attention. The humans will also benefit from understanding some of the behavior patterns a previously abandoned animal acts out. These can include a high level of dependence and possessiveness.  The animal may never want the new human out of its sight and may be particularly fearful when it senses that a human is going away, whether it’s for a few hours or a vacation. Once the animal’s fear has been addressed, the secondary behavior patterns often dissipate.

Aspen. This Remedy is for unknown fears. An abandoned animal remembers that life became uncertain and frightening once it was forced to be on its own. Abandonment also means a loss of a known environment. This particularly affects cats in terms of a familiar space, as felines are very territorial. A dog might be more affected by the loss of pack members, whether animal or human.

If you notice that an animal is generally fearful, but you can’t connect the fear to anything specific, Aspen is a good Remedy choice. In addition, since Remedies don’t have negative effects when not needed, it does no harm to give an animal both Mimulus and Aspen.

Overall, it’s important for the human companion to have realistic expectations about an abused and/or abandoned animal. Consistency and lots of affection can ease many of an animal’s fears, and essences can do a lot to help. All rescued animals have good chances to become approachable and affectionate pets.

21418953.thbThe human, however, needs to realize that the animal may not turn into a tail-wagging or purring creature that loves every human in sight. It’s important for the human companion to accept the animal at each stage of its development in socialization. If the human is disappointed in the animal’s progress, the animal will realize this and may have self-esteem issues.

The best general advice for anyone who takes in a rescued animal is that any animal placed in a loving household is likely to improve considerably. Patience and loving understanding will help the animal grow in trust.
Fortunately, those who knowingly take on a cat or dog with a history of abuse are also those usually have the commitment and compassion to appreciate the courage and devotion of an animal that, regardless of its degree of socialization, has triumphed over great adversity.

Remedies for Humans Who Have Adopted an Abandoned or Abused Animal

The Remedies below are generally helpful when you have an animal whose behavioral/emotional issues may frustrate you.

  • Impatiens. This teaches acceptance of the animal as it is and appreciation of its rate of progress, regardless of the length of time it may take.
  • Beech. This Remedy helps to release any judgment one may feel about an abused or abandoned animal’s behavior.
  • Pine. This Remedy can help if you are feeling guilty about either impatience of judgment. It also helps to remind yourself that you’re only human.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: C. M. (Connie) Barrett has been a flower essence practitioner, teacher, and writer since 1990. She is a regular contributor to this ezine, and her articles have been printed in print and online journals around the world. She teaches four courses by email including Bach Flower Remedies: A User-Friendly Guide. She is also the author of the fantasy novel:  Big Dragons Don’t Cry, Book I of A Dragon’s Guide to Destiny, and Book 2: Dance with Clouds. See her writing online at EFT Consultations.

Normal Forgetfulness? Six Points to Consider

Posted by admin on Oct 23, 2011
By Deborah Bier, PhD, Vibration Publisher and Co-Editor
Note: The following article is from Dr. Bier’s “day job” as director of the metrowest Boston office of Caring Companion Home Care.  Read this piece in its entirety here.

I’m middle-aged, and I go through this all the time: where are my house keys… purse… car in the parking lot? How did I forget those printouts for the meeting… to defrost tonight’s dinner… to move the wet wash to the dryer before it gets moldy?  Sometimes, I’m suddenly concerned I’ve forgotten an important meeting, but can’t recall quickly what day of the week it is today — much less when that appointment was to take place — which sends me scrambling for my calendar.

Now, I was about to make an important point here, but I’ve forgotten what it was… darn!  Looking above for reminders… oh, right!

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Resilience After a Failure: Larch is For Optimism and Self-Confidence

Posted by admin on Oct 8, 2011

©7-11 by Sheryl Karas and Paul Hood, in Healing Communication News

One theme for us this year – and for lots of people — is the lesson in having things go wrong, not getting what you want, working really hard over a very long period of time only to be forced to do something else. The vast majority of people who have faced job loss, foreclosure, and downsizing were not at fault – and yet the inability for so many people to simply jump back in and put things back in order right away hits like a blow to the solar plexus, it dredges up issues of self-esteem.

manbroke-a2dFailure and the ease with which we get up again afterward has a lot to do with upbringing and societal conditioning. Wouldn’t it be great if we celebrated the failures as much as the colossal successes?

“Wow man! Did you see how badly you blew that one? That was awesome! I honestly don’t think you could do any worse if you were hogtied, blindfolded and completely unconscious.

“On a scale of one to ten that was negative fifteen. If my four year old kid painted a picture like that, I’d give him a time out. Listen, you need to go to the cemetery and dig up every artist who ever lived and make a personal apology to their lifeless bodies. Right on, man! Do another!” Read the rest of this entry »

The 9/11 Pear Tree and Pear Essence

Posted by admin on Sep 24, 2011

By Deborah Bier, PhD, Publisher, Co-Editor, Vibration Magazine

Sometimes I read something in the news, in a book, magazine, see it in a play or a movie and am simply struck dumb by how an understanding of flower essences deepens my appreciation and understanding of what I’ve just seen. Here is a perfect example.  On the 10th anniversary of 9/11, I read the following snippet of a story:

798px-Pear_flowers“In the smouldering ruins of the towers 10 years ago, the workers found a pear tree, burnt to a stump, broken, almost dead. Last week, having been slowly and stubbornly nursed back to life over a decade, it was replanted in the footprint of the World Trade Centre. A sign of what might be the great unwritten motto of this greatest of cities: Though the mountains may fall and be washed to the sea, some trees can never be felled”. (From the ashes, a pear tree tells us of survival” by Joseph O’Connor)

Of course, I thought about the flower essence made from Pear and the connections were so obvious!   I would have missed the deeper magic of this event if I had had no familiarity with this essence. Below is essence maker Lila Devi’s description (follow the link below for more about this essence).

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Dealing with Grief with Australian Bush Flower Essences

Posted by admin on Sep 10, 2011

By Clare Chapman of Baliena Flower Therapies

Nothing gives you insight into an emotion or physical condition better than when you get thrown into it head-first! And I write this blog post with this exact scenario in mind: my personal experience of dealing with the loss of my beautiful dog, who has generously and selflessly shared my life for almost sixteen years.

39191031.thbThe trouble with experiencing grief, though, is that no matter how kind the people around you are and how many beautiful condolences you receive, you just never feel like anyone around you understands what you are going through. It is almost as though you feel trapped within a bubble: everyone can see you and to them you look as though you are your normal self, but your outlook is hazy and you feel isolated and alone.

And what has compounded this feeling of isolation is that I am grieving for a pet. To me, this has meant that I have felt almost as though I am unjustified in grieving: unlike expectations held for the loss of a parent, partner or another significant person. Feelings arise such as assuming that others will judge you as over-reacting, emotionally unstable or even selfish for putting so much energy into an animal’s life. But grieving soon makes you realise that all you are doing is perceiving others through your own system of judgements, values and beliefs – rather than these being the real emotions or reactions of the people around you.

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Flower Essences for Specific Fears

Posted by admin on Sep 3, 2011

By Marion Leigh, Founder, Findhorn Flower Essences

Thinking about how many types of specific fears people can experience, it isn’t hard to understand why there is such a prevalence of them in the world today. These are the ‘known’ fears, and it matters not that one knows one has a particular fear about a thing or situation. In fact, the knowing itself causes distress to the sufferer!

fearofflying-a2dThe following essences could be considered for the emotional causes and effects of specific fears:

Daisy’s keynote is ‘protection’ and this essence is helpful when negative emotions (such as fear) threaten our sense of safety. A remedy to help us to stay calm and centered.

Bell Heather assists in maintaining stability when there is fear that we may be thrown off balance, and so lose control. This remedy aims to promote confidence in one’s ability to stand firmly grounded when we feel shaken to our roots.

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Men Wonder: What Does She Mean???

Posted by admin on Aug 27, 2011

Editors’ Note: This is an oldie-but-goodie we published over a decade ago.  We don’t have current biographical info on the author, but would love to if she or someone she knows would get in touch with us. Thanks!

©2000 by Marie Matthews

24724597.thbI questioned a few male friends about the focus of an article about men and essences, and the first subject suggested was always sexuality. However, when I pushed them to be more specific, I found that they all had a great need to be able to understand what their wives, lovers, and partners really wanted from them. They needed greater sensitivity to the nuances of the often unspoken requests, demands and reactions of their partners. They also needed to learn to respond in ways that would satisfy the woman’s great need for intimate communication. Read the rest of this entry »

Silverweed and Other Essences for Perfectionism

Posted by admin on Aug 19, 2011

By Marion Leigh, Founder, Findhorn Flower Essences

Recently I was doing some personal research on Silverweed (Potentilla anserina) flower essence.  I spent about a week on this project, taking the essence, tuning in and writing down what happened to me.

25735484.thbI experienced the negatives of Silverweed profoundly. In particular I notice I became overly absorbed in details. This manifested as getting consumed in the minutiae of what I was writing, so perfectionistic was I about my choice of words that I would check dictionaries, study the etymology, then the myriad thesauruses available on-line for possible alternatives, sometimes musing over a word for days.  Now, I know I’m a bit of a stickler for perfection, but this was getting ridiculous. Everyone around me noticed I was obsessing – FFE staff encouraging me to ‘move on’ and stop taking Silverweed, as I was clearly doing a ‘proving’ of the essence. Read the rest of this entry »

Beating Those Back-to-School Blues: Australian Bush Flower Essence-Style!

Posted by admin on Aug 13, 2011

By Clare Chapman of Baliena Flower Therapies

Australian Bush Flower Essences can help your child or teenager deal with those Back-to-School Blues

41838715.thbIt is impossible for me not to remember how miserable I used to feel as a child when those ‘Back-to-School’ advertisements started appearing on television straight after Christmas each year: escalating in frequency as the end of January, and as its imminent arrival of school, closed in on me!

Hopefully many people are now becoming aware of how much school can contribute to a state of depression in children, with many feeling as though they are trapped in an institution that controls their available choices: giving them little room to be individual or independent; challenging them intellectually and socially in ways they often won’t have faced before; sometimes offering them little stimulation or too much stimulation; and at worst, leading to dangerous feelings of depression and despair.

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