Abandonment Issues & Essences for Animals

Posted by admin on Nov 5, 2011

By C.M Barrett, excerpted from Animals Have Feelings, Too: Bach Flower Remedies for Cats and Dogs, Copyright © 2011

21419114.thbSome people think that dogs and cats, because they were long ago wild animals, can simply be dumped and thrive in the outdoor world. This is a dangerous misconception. Over the eons of their association with humans, both dogs and cats have lost many of the traits that enabled them to survive as wild animals. Some of this is due to the selective breeding of pedigreed animals. Some of it comes from the reality that those puppies and kittens that seem friendly and docile are more likely to be adopted and thus have a better chance of surviving. Whatever part of their temperament is genetically based will be passed on.

The bottom line is that domesticated cats and dogs aren’t wild animals. Experts on feral cats say that their life expectancy is about two years. Dogs may live longer because of their tendency to form packs, but their way of life threatens their well-being and often that of humans. Rescued animals have a better chance of survival, but they need extra understanding and care.

Abandoned animals may have special issues about food. Cats or dogs born to a mother who was malnourished during her pregnancy will also be malnourished. They will need extra and high-quality nutrition, and they may at first act frantic about food.

In many cases the same remedy recommendations work for abandonment as work with abuse, and animals often have a history of both issues. They may be highly traumatized. The survival strategies that animals develop to cope with their situations can include aggression, withdrawal, fear, and other negative emotions and behaviors.

Star of Bethlehem. This is the most important Remedy for abused and abandoned animals. All animals (including humans) have the primary goal of surviving and avoiding pain. On this basic level, abused and abandoned animals have experienced severe difficulties in achieving this goal.

Every animal, again including humans, has what is called the primitive or reptilian brain. This brain knows three basic responses: flight, fight, or freeze. Fight and flight are self-explanatory, but the freeze response is more complex and is usually the origin of trauma. In the wild, this doesn’t often occur.

Domesticated animals (and humans) don’t always have access to this life-giving relief. When a chained dog with a natural tendency to obey its master is beaten by that same master, it may neither flee nor fight. Instead it will freeze. The freezing literally imprints the agonizing memory of the beating—and sadly, it may experience more than one—into its awareness. Anything that reminds the dog of that experience will throw it into the same helpless, suffering state.

20836301.thbStar of Bethlehem can help to heal traumatic memories. If you even suspect that these conditions may be part of an animal’s history, recommend it or administer it.

Holly. An animal traumatized by abuse can naturally learn to defend itself with an aggressive front. Animals that display extreme forms of aggression are not considered eligible for adoption.

This Remedy can help mild to moderate cases of aggressive behavior, especially if it is combined with one of the two primary remedies for fear. Holly can also be very valuable for animals that are aggressive in protecting their food supplies.

Mimulus. As you gain experience, you’ll find that close questioning about and observation of the particulars of an animal’s current behavior can
lead you to draw accurate conclusions about the source of its fear. Even if you don’t have specific information, though, the animal knows what frightens
it, and Mimulus, the Remedy for known fears, can be very effective.

Among the emotions abandoned animals may experience, the fear that they will be abandoned again predominates. Their human companions need to consistently give them affection and attention. The humans will also benefit from understanding some of the behavior patterns a previously abandoned animal acts out. These can include a high level of dependence and possessiveness.  The animal may never want the new human out of its sight and may be particularly fearful when it senses that a human is going away, whether it’s for a few hours or a vacation. Once the animal’s fear has been addressed, the secondary behavior patterns often dissipate.

Aspen. This Remedy is for unknown fears. An abandoned animal remembers that life became uncertain and frightening once it was forced to be on its own. Abandonment also means a loss of a known environment. This particularly affects cats in terms of a familiar space, as felines are very territorial. A dog might be more affected by the loss of pack members, whether animal or human.

If you notice that an animal is generally fearful, but you can’t connect the fear to anything specific, Aspen is a good Remedy choice. In addition, since Remedies don’t have negative effects when not needed, it does no harm to give an animal both Mimulus and Aspen.

Overall, it’s important for the human companion to have realistic expectations about an abused and/or abandoned animal. Consistency and lots of affection can ease many of an animal’s fears, and essences can do a lot to help. All rescued animals have good chances to become approachable and affectionate pets.

21418953.thbThe human, however, needs to realize that the animal may not turn into a tail-wagging or purring creature that loves every human in sight. It’s important for the human companion to accept the animal at each stage of its development in socialization. If the human is disappointed in the animal’s progress, the animal will realize this and may have self-esteem issues.

The best general advice for anyone who takes in a rescued animal is that any animal placed in a loving household is likely to improve considerably. Patience and loving understanding will help the animal grow in trust.
Fortunately, those who knowingly take on a cat or dog with a history of abuse are also those usually have the commitment and compassion to appreciate the courage and devotion of an animal that, regardless of its degree of socialization, has triumphed over great adversity.

Remedies for Humans Who Have Adopted an Abandoned or Abused Animal

The Remedies below are generally helpful when you have an animal whose behavioral/emotional issues may frustrate you.

  • Impatiens. This teaches acceptance of the animal as it is and appreciation of its rate of progress, regardless of the length of time it may take.
  • Beech. This Remedy helps to release any judgment one may feel about an abused or abandoned animal’s behavior.
  • Pine. This Remedy can help if you are feeling guilty about either impatience of judgment. It also helps to remind yourself that you’re only human.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: C. M. (Connie) Barrett has been a flower essence practitioner, teacher, and writer since 1990. She is a regular contributor to this ezine, and her articles have been printed in print and online journals around the world. She teaches four courses by email including Bach Flower Remedies: A User-Friendly Guide. She is also the author of the fantasy novel:  Big Dragons Don’t Cry, Book I of A Dragon’s Guide to Destiny, and Book 2: Dance with Clouds. See her writing online at EFT Consultations.

Normal Forgetfulness? Six Points to Consider

Posted by admin on Oct 23, 2011
By Deborah Bier, PhD, Vibration Publisher and Co-Editor
Note: The following article is from Dr. Bier’s “day job” as director of the metrowest Boston office of Caring Companion Home Care.  Read this piece in its entirety here.

I’m middle-aged, and I go through this all the time: where are my house keys… purse… car in the parking lot? How did I forget those printouts for the meeting… to defrost tonight’s dinner… to move the wet wash to the dryer before it gets moldy?  Sometimes, I’m suddenly concerned I’ve forgotten an important meeting, but can’t recall quickly what day of the week it is today — much less when that appointment was to take place — which sends me scrambling for my calendar.

Now, I was about to make an important point here, but I’ve forgotten what it was… darn!  Looking above for reminders… oh, right!

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Men Wonder: What Does She Mean???

Posted by admin on Aug 27, 2011

Editors’ Note: This is an oldie-but-goodie we published over a decade ago.  We don’t have current biographical info on the author, but would love to if she or someone she knows would get in touch with us. Thanks!

©2000 by Marie Matthews

24724597.thbI questioned a few male friends about the focus of an article about men and essences, and the first subject suggested was always sexuality. However, when I pushed them to be more specific, I found that they all had a great need to be able to understand what their wives, lovers, and partners really wanted from them. They needed greater sensitivity to the nuances of the often unspoken requests, demands and reactions of their partners. They also needed to learn to respond in ways that would satisfy the woman’s great need for intimate communication. Read the rest of this entry »

FullMoon Essences

Posted by admin on Jul 23, 2011

By Deborah Bier, PhD, Maker of the Whole Energy Essences, and Publisher & Co-Editor of this Publication

In late 1995, I was guided to prepare myself to make a new essence during each full moon in 1996. That is, to capture through the essence-making process the energies of the moon, planets, asteroids and stars for a moment during the moon’s fullness. There would be a total of 13 essences made, one for each full moon of the year. (Only 12 are available commercially….I would later find out that the first one was 34631842.thbintended to be a “practice” session and it would be replaced by the last one of the year, which was in the same astrological sign, thereby completing the set.)

This proved to be some of the most lovely, sweet, gentle, and magical essence-making I’ve ever experienced. I even felt thrilled going outside to make an essence near midnight on a winter’s evening that was -15 degrees Fahrenheit. Well, both thrilled AND chilled. I have always felt very at home with the moon…happy to see her…smiled upon by her. I felt totally fulfilled and content being asked to perform this service.

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Moon Water—A Simple Way to Empower your Intentions

Posted by admin on Jul 9, 2011

© 26 June 2011 by C.J. Wright of Auntie Moon

Vibration Editor, Donna Cunningham, says: Auntie Moon, one of my favorite bloggers, does a great job, day in and day out, of charting the phases of the Moon and inspiring us to make uplifting and productive use of them. When she posted this simple method of helping ourselves make better use of the Moon’s monthly and yearly cycles, I had to ask her to share it with Vibration’s readers.

moonwater-a2dI’d been wanting to make some Moon Water for a while and kept putting it off for no reason other than I just haven’t done it. Interestingly enough, when the inspiration took a strong hold on me, the Sun and Moon just happened to be in my natal signs.

Maybe you’ll want to try this for yourself. First, I’ll explain basic Moon Water and then move on to Moon Waters prepared specifically for you.

What is Moon Water?

Nothing other than water left out under the Moon. Usually done during a Full Moon, Moon Water is said to take on the qualities of the Full Moon’s sign ~ it’s ”charged” by the Moon. You simply draw a container of water, place a covering over it to keep the ickies out, and leave it under the Full Moon. (Sounds a bit like making Sun Tea, right?) Bring it in the next morning, and there’s your Moon Water.

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Flower Essences to Help Change a Pattern of Fatigue and Exhaustion

Posted by admin on Jun 11, 2011

©by Donna Cunningham, MSW

Fatigue, chronic tension, and stress make it hard to enjoy life. The flower remedies, such as those by Bach or the The Flower Essence Society, can help release an emotional and physical backlog and learn new ways of coping with life’s demands.

34859048.thbNothing can rob people of the zest for life like unrelenting fatigue. It is important to note that exhaustion may have many medical causes. These include chronic infection or systemic viruses, cardiac or pulmonary insufficiency, or adrenal exhaustion, which can come from constant stress or caffeine abuse.

Deep fatigue can also be a symptom of either chronic or acute depression. It is important for the individual to have a checkup to ascertain if fatigue is due to a medical condition or clinical depression and to follow up on any required treatment.

Flower essences are not a substitute for necessary health care exercise, and proper diet, all of which have salutary effects on exhaustion.

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Royal Wedding Cake Invokes the Healing Power of Flowers

Posted by admin on May 7, 2011

©2011 by Donna Cunningham, MSW

When Prince William and Catherine Middleton married on April 29th, the design of their wedding cake incorporated an ancient tradition in which the choice of flowers carried secret messages and sentiments between lovers. Called the Language of Flowers, it was part of courtship rituals and of a centuries-old magical symbolism in which particular flowers were believed to be associated with certain qualities and spiritual principles.

sugarflower-wiki These same associations have become part of flower essence literature, as descriptions of the properties of various essences are often influenced by the traditional beliefs.

Numerous newspaper and blog accounts of the wedding cake state that Catherine believes in the Language of Flowers, and that those ideas were incorporated into the design she requested for her wedding cake.

According to the Daily Mail, a major British newspaper, “…the cake had 900 sugar paste flowers, and each tells a story. The cake was designed for the couple by Fiona Cairns — and it was a fruit cake!  See Kate also gave Ms Cairns detailed instructions for her to include 17 different blooms and foliage for their meaning or symbolism – known as the ‘language of flowers.”

Read more and see pictures of this amazing cake here: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1381944/Royal-Wedding-cake-Kate-Middleton-requested-8-tiers-decorated-900-flowers.html#ixzz1L2sVCcSZ

Adriana Velez’s article, Royal Wedding Cake Contains Secret Messages, lists the flowers included on the cake and their meanings: Read the rest of this entry »

Flower Essences For Your Wedding Day

Posted by admin on Apr 23, 2011

By Sally J

Weddings often evoke deep emotions from guests and participants. While most of the emotions are pleasant, some may be combined with anxiety. To keep everyone in good spirits, flower essences are recommended for a calming effect. For a spiritual event complete with peace, serenity and joyful moments, flower essences may be incorporated. They may also be used in place of libations for non-drinking participants.

41814593.thbIf either party experiences problems with commitment, the Wedding Bush (Australian Bush) is recommended to alleviate these feelings. Experts assert that the popular flower essence will improve commitment in a relationship, employment or with a family. Wedding Bush can be used when the initial attraction diminishes. This is perfect for a person that enjoys multiple relationships, but is trying to commit to one individual.

Flannel Flower (Australian Bush) is recommended for the honeymoon. This particular essence may help brides or grooms overcome their fear of intimacy or overcome sensitivity issues. Those who do not like to be touched may also desire the Flannel Flower to experience feelings of gentleness, trust, openness and sensitivity. This flower helps partners feel more open when engaging in physical activity.

Wedding planners may share the experience with their wedding party and even guests by preparing a bar with spring water and essence drops. Flower essences may alleviate any fears and last minute jitters at the wedding. These essences may be combined with complementary flowers or aromatherapy to further ignite the senses and calm the participant.

41814803.thbEssences may also be combined with natural flowers. Wedding planners may incorporate wedding flowers that correspond with a flower essence bar for the wedding party. If the bride or groom becomes anxious or gets cold feet, a few drops may be administered to alleviate feelings of anxiety.

Wedding reception accessories may be combined with the flower essences and presented at the wedding. Flower petals may be scattered around the table to accessorize. Flower essences may also be used in conjunction with essential oils for scented satchels, soaps, bath salts or other wedding favors or wedding reception accessories. Flower essences can also be recommended as wedding favors for guests or the bridal party.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Sally is an avid blogger and traveler.  She is currently awaiting the arrival of her first child while she continues to teach at a Chicago area elementary school. Find her blog at  www.eatbreatheblog.com.

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Strength for Your Essence Mixtures: Add a Toner

Posted by admin on Apr 16, 2011

©2002 by Donna Cunningham, MSW

Note this is an Excerpt from Donna’s ebook, Flower Remedies—How Plants’ Energies Can Heal Us, available at Moon Maven Publications.

strengtholdtarot-mgxOne Tarot card with much to teach us is Strength, shown here in a medieval rendering (”La Forza”). The woman is able to overcome the ferocity of the lion with nothing more than gentleness. This suggests that we can overcome even the most formidable of our obstacles better with gentleness than by going at them full force.

Perhaps the greatest obstacles we face are within ourselves, and these, too, respond with less resistance when we approach them this way. In general, flower essences are among the softest and kindest tools for removing inner barriers to a peaceful life. Our mixtures, however, can have even more of this gentle strength — and fewer rough edges — when we enhance them with what I call a toner.

Years ago, I read in one of Gurudas’ books that adding Peach to a remedy mixture could strengthen it and speed the healing process. I tried it and liked the results, and this started me on a process of finding “toner” essences to enhance essence work. Now I seldom make a mixture that does not include one or more toners as a catalyst.

Since our perceptions can be so subjective, are there any objective measures of the effectiveness of toners? When selecting remedies for a particular problem or situation, I use a pendulum to approve or reject various choices that come to mind.

I then test the group of promising remedies as a whole–a very important step. This tells me whether the remedies go together harmoniously and whether the mixture as a whole is stronger or weaker than the individual components. Based on this assessment, I may eliminate one or more of my selections to get the right number of remedies in most effective combination.

pendulum1bestbd-a2dFinally, and this is what sold me on toners, I see how the pendulum behaves when I bring one or more of the toners into the lineup of bottles. Generally, at least one of them will cause the pendulum to swing wildly, meaning that it has a powerful effect.

I have consistently seen a similar effect for toners with muscle reflex testing or the thumb-forefinger lock. If you use any of these methods to confirm your suppositions about which remedies to include, do test for some of the toners to be described here, to see if they could enhance the potency of your essence mixtures.

I keep several toners on hand because different ones seem to work for different people at different times. No doubt if we queried twenty or thirty of the essence companies, each maker could suggest a toner or two from their collection. If you are partial to a particular company’s essences and they are not mentioned here, you might ask them for recommendations.

None of the Bach remedies seem–to me, at least–to fit into that category. No doubt if Dr. Bach were asked, however, he would have suggested Holly as catalyst if the healing process seems stuck. Here are my personal favorites.

selfhealbd-a2dSelf-Heal, on an herbal level, is a powerful healer and is no less potent on the essence level. Among others, it is made by the Flower Essence Society (my choice), Pegasus, Alaskan Flower Essence Project, Harebell, Deva, and Andreas Korte Essences.

Each company has a slightly different description, but FES says that it enhances one’s self-healing powers and eases self-doubt. Both of these qualities can remove blockages to a healing effort. Self-doubt weakens us, acting as a drag on our will and undermining our efforts to make progress. I do find Self-Heal often gives a tremendous boost to an essence combination, so it is the first toner I test.

Peach–the essence that started my journey of exploration–is simply listed as a catalyst by several of the makers. Others give a variety of descriptions, and no doubt each is true and part of the reason for its catalytic effect. (To compare and contrast the makers’ definitions of either Peach or Self-Heal would be an article in itself.) It is offered by Pegasus, the Flower Essence Society (again, my personal choice), Master’s, the New Zealand New Perception Essences, and no doubt by others as well.

peach-phcomA third collection of toners is not available except from the maker, Gretchen Lawlor, Astrologer.  A world traveler, Gretchen has visited many of the sacred sites of the world. She made sure to collect waters from each of those places, which she distilled into individual and combination essences. They include Lourdes, the Ganges River, and many of the holy wells in Ireland. I test one or more of her combinations when making a mixture and often find a strong, yet loving effect, much what you would expect from holy water.

Another remedy with great potential as a toner is Deborah Bier’s Full Spectrum Light Essence from Whole Energy Essences. This is a preparation which includes–just as it says–all light frequencies. She uses it to preserve all stock bottles but finds that beyond the preservative effect, it also enhances other remedies’ effects. For an in-depth portrait of this remedy, see our December 1999, issue.

nuesscvrsm This is by no means an exhaustive list, but should get you started thinking about how certain essences act on mixtures to enhance the overall effect. One of the things I look at in working with the pendulum is not just the strength of the swing but also its length, since that gives me a clue as to how long the mixture will be needed.

Often, when I test for a toner, the swing is not only stronger but also shorter, meaning that the mixture should take effect sooner and more powerfully. I wouldn’t work without toners, as life is too short to stay stuck in a problem!

Note: this has been an excerpt from Donna’s ebook, Flower Remedies—How Plants’ Energies Can Heal Us, available at Moon Maven Publications. You can order it here: http://www.moonmavenpublications.com/mysteries.html.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Donna Cunningham, MSW is the coeditor of Vibration and a long-time educator and writer in the field of flower remedies. She is also an internationally-respected author of books, articles, and columns about astrology, flower essences and other metaphysical topics. Her insights reflect her dual background in astrology and psychotherapy. She has a Master’s degree in Social Work from Columbia University and over 40 years of experience in working with people. Her ebooks can be found at Moon Maven Publications (http://www.moonmavenpublications.com) Visit her blog at http://skywriter.wordpress.com.


Recovering Our Greatest Strengths Following Disaster, Illness or Injury

Posted by admin on Apr 2, 2011

By Deborah Bier, PhD, maker of the Whole Energy Essences and Co-Editor of this publication.

Here’s a little ray of sunshine to add to your day: no matter what we do or how much we wish otherwise, it’s likely that someday we each will experience illness or injury — maybe even a disaster or two. While such events may eventually help us grow and improve our lives, living through them and coming out the other side can take some doing.

Johnny JumpupThank goodness for vibrational and flower essences! They can speed the recovery process, letting us more quickly make tasty lemonade out of the sour lemons life has delivered to our doorstep. Regardless of the origin of the acute or chronic situation, if we are in an emotional and/or physical crisis, we can easily lose touch with our sense of “center” — which is right where our greatest strengths live and work best. The trauma of mass disaster, or significant illness or injury commonly disconnects us from our strengths, abilities, gifts, and talents. During or following an illness or recovery from an injury, we may find ourselves losing confidence in our previously solid abilities. We may suddenly feel unsafe or unsure. We might grow to distrust ourselves, particularly our physical or mental capabilities. We may lose touch with our inner voice, our sense of “knowing.” Read the rest of this entry »