Posted by admin on Nov 27, 2010
©2009 by Clare Chapman of Baliena Flower Therapies
Is decision-making more painful than a trip to the dentist for you?
I can’t imagine there would be too many things that people would be more afraid of dealing with in their life than having to make a decision.
“But what if I make the wrong decision”, is often the common remark, or at least the internal thought that plagues most people at the time they face a cross-roads: left or right, up or down, should I stay or should I?
Based on the fact that it is critical in so many aspects of our lives, I thought it may be helpful to look at how we can use Australian Bush Flower Essences in the decision-making process to help with: making your decision; feeling more confident with yourself after you have made your decision; and having the confidence to know that no matter which decision you have made, you are always able to adjust course at any point in your journey.
:: Self-Esteem ::
I believe that one of the most important aspects of good decision-making is believing in yourself: believing that you have the ability and life experience to weigh up the ‘pros’ and ‘cons’ of your current situation, and deliver a decision that will keep you moving in what you deem to be the right direction or at least keep you moving!
Five Corners (Styphelia triflora) is the remedy to help you here, as it will help you to realise that you are the only person who can know what is best for you, and can therefore never make an incorrect decision. Dog Rose (Bauera rubioides) may also be helpful here to remove any fears you may have about your own ability to make decisions, and to instill more confidence in your own abilities.
Another good remedy to ensure you are confident in your past actions and achievements is Philotheca (Philotheca salsolifolia) as it may be that you just don’t recognise the good decisions you have made to date and you need to commend yourself more for all your past achievements. Having a healthy level of self-esteem will ensure that you will never see any decision as incorrect nor punish yourself for what you deem in hindsight to have been a wrong decision: it will instead leave you viewing your decisions as nothing more than learning curves or opportunities to move towards your goals in different directions – some via the fastest option and some via the ‘scenic’ route!
:: How clear are your goals? ::
Sometimes one of the simplest things hindering good decision-making is how clearly we articulate or are aware of our goals. Even if that goal is just a short-term one, such as ‘which restaurant should I eat at tomorrow night’, you still need to be aware of what your goal is for the evening: are you entertaining a work colleague that you need to impress or are you just having a cozy evening with a loved one?
Something as simple as working out your objectives can make the decision making process so much simpler. A good Essence to assist with getting clear on your goals is Sundew (Drosera spathulata) which can help you think clearly and focus while you are asking yourself about your objective.
Maybe you don’t know what direction in life you want to head in and therefore find it hard to make goals that suit your unknown objectives. Silver Princess (Eucalyptus caesia) would be a good remedy here to help you to find your life direction and purpose. If you don’t know where you want to go, it is almost impossible to work out how to get there!
:: Do you determine when you have to make decisions or do circumstances? ::
This may sound like a strange question, but do you tend to ‘steer’ your life or do you end up making decisions by default: that is, do the decisions you face tend to come about after others around you have made their decisions and you simply react to them by choosing what you are left with?
Christmas Bell (Blandfordia nobilis) may be helpful if you feel that you don’t create your life, but rather you only react to what circumstances around you dictate after they occur. It is an empowering remedy that will help you to sculpt your life and help you to manifest some of your own desires, rather than letting yourself get pushed along by the crowd around you.
Perhaps, though, your problem is that you find yourself making the same decisions over and over again, with similar results (e.g. you may find yourself constantly choosing to work in similar jobs where you keep getting disillusioned and ultimately leave, or you keep choosing the same type of person for a partner which leaves you ultimately feeling unhappy and ending your relationships). If this is the case, you would most likely benefit from using some Isopogon (Isopogon anethifolius) to help you learn the lessons you are missing from these past decisions, which in turn will empower you to make better decisions in future.
:: Have you made ‘bad’ decisions in the past? ::
Remembering I pointed out earlier that there is no such thing as a bad decision, only different lessons to be learned (see Isopogon above if you aren’t doing this!), maybe you feel disillusioned by what your decisions lead you to in life. If this is you, then maybe some Sunshine Wattle (Acacia terminalis) is just what you need to give you a more optimistic outlook on life and the decisions you face.
And if a lot of the time you feel that you don’t really have a choice (an indicator of which might be if you use the expression ‘damned if I do, damned if I don’t’ a lot!), then you may benefit from using Southern Cross (Xanthosia rotundifolia) to remind you that you are indeed responsible for your life and decisions. It is important to note that even if you don’t make a decision, you are still choosing to forego your right to decide.
:: One final note ::
Still dreading decision-making? Maybe some Pink Flannel Flower (Actinotus forsythii) may help you to be grateful that you indeed do have choices when you do not want to make a decision. After all, the fact that you are feeling burdened with options when making a decision is at least a sign that you have freedom of choice! So it may give you peace of mind to know that no matter how tormented you feel by the decision you face, at least you get to choose where you go next and it is not being decided by someone else.
About Clare Chapman: Clare is an accredited Australian Bush Flower Essences College Course Teacher and is a full member of the International Institute for Complementary Therapists (IICT). Clare has been using and prescribing Australian Bush Flower Essences for over 6 years, and under the personal guidance of ABFE founder, Ian White, has been teaching the official Australian Bush Flower Essences College Course for the past 3 years.
Clare established Baliena Flower Therapies in early 2008, with the aim of creating a business solely dedicated to the purpose of empowering people through the use of Australian Bush Flower Essences and other supportive techniques – enabling people to gain better health and wellbeing by healing and understanding their own emotions. Visit her website at Clare Chapman – http://www.flowertherapies.com.au and her blog at http://flowertherapies.wordpress.com.
Posted by admin on Nov 20, 2010
Editors’ Note: Interesting in more articles about flower essences and animals? See our Virtual Booklet on the topic: http://www.essences.com/vibration/pets
By Deborah Bier, PhD
“My dog won’t stop eating rocks,” moaned my new client’s human. “He’s only a year old, and he’s had stomach surgery THREE TIMES already because he keeps swallowing rocks too large to pass. Can essences help? I’m desperate!”
This case was not only an experience in working with a serious animal behavior, but it also went on to affirm my belief that the “identified patient” — that is, the one who is described as having the problem — is so often just the tip of the family iceberg. Many times the symptoms which bring the client to seek help have complex origins: other (or all) members of the family may need intervention in order for the original problem to find healing. Unfortunately, this is not always possible, so the outcome can end up being somewhat less than desired.
Posted by admin on Nov 13, 2010
Editors’ Note: Interesting in more articles about flower essences and animals? See our Virtual Booklet on the topic: http://www.essences.com/vibration/pets
by Kitty Holman
Many people use flower essences as gentle, healing remedies for various types of problems. But these essences are not just for humans; animals can benefit from their use as well. Below, we’ve outlined a few of the more popular uses of essence as they can be used to treat our pets. It is important to note that all animals are unique and different in their own ways. These guidelines should be used as just that, and not taken as recommendations for use in all cases.
Unfortunately, it’s true that many animals suffer abuse at the hands of humans, either from owners, handlers, or strangers. This abuse can be physical mistreatment, neglect, and even abandonment. Because animals are highly sensitive creatures, the effects of this abuse can often be long lasting. If you have adopted an animal from a rescue organization or taken in a pet that is known to have a less than appealing past, consider these essences for their treatment. First, Aspen is often used to address and assuage unknown fears and promote centeredness or groundedness. Larch is used to generate self-confidence and boost self-esteem, as well as creative expression. To help animals recover from feelings of guilt and shame, try using essence of pine which will help them feel freer and forgiven. Finally, to reduce the symptoms of shock and to promote healing, the Star of Bethlehem is the best choice.
Posted by admin on Nov 6, 2010
©2010 by Sheryl Karas M.A.
When a person is over-identified with aspects of its “ego self”—that small self that is part of the past and never the future—sometimes we need to cleanse the spirit of all those past attachments so life can be truly transformed and made new. There are times that try people’s Souls.
We become so attached to possessions, lifestyle, social recognition, external things that we think express who we are but in reality can help hold us back from what we can become. Last year’s recession brought job loss, business losses, bankruptcy and home foreclosure to a lot of people. Others have lost family and friends. It’s hard to feel spiritual when you’re stripped of so much but a lot of people turn to spirit in times like these.
So is there any spiritual purpose in experiences like this? Sure! But when people you love are in the midst of the crisis it’s probably not the right time to discuss it — at least not if you want things to remain civil. Though Paul and I have been taking the time to look at this key issue.
Spirituality isn’t always about living “The Secret” and getting what you want, at least not right away. Sometimes it is about loss and that’s painful! But from the highest spiritual perspective it’s hard for a purpose.
To give up the past is often a blessing, not a curse. It frees you to new experience, to create what you’re longing for without a death wish related to past beliefs and old ideas of “right living” attached. When you are stripped to the essentials, you see so clearly what matters most. You never let go of your essential soul purpose. That’s what you see and that’s what you have left to build upon and grow.
In Flower Essence Therapy, Sagebrush (Artemisia tridentata) is used to help people who have been essentially stripped of a lot of what they hold dear. Sagebrush lives in the desert in the harshest of conditions.
We see it growing along the road where Paul and I live now and it’s quite beautiful. In the summer and fall it has tiny yellow flowers that grow in bunches near the ends of the branches and it has hairy but stiff silvery grey-green leaves that are lobed like an oak leaf. It can grow to almost 4 feet tall but, unless living near a source of running water, most tend to stay a lot smaller, usually 1-2 feet.
Artemisia tridentata is part of the asteraceae or Sunflower family which, for flower essence purposes, indicates that it carries some of the same characteristics of other flowers in that family. For example, the small flower heads are actually a composite of many individual flowers clumped together so they look like one. The Asteraceae flower family is also known as “compositae” for this very reason.
Most of the species in this family are also sun-loving plants, with strong, sturdy, long-lasting stems and branches. Richard Katz of the Flower Essence Society has written about this plant family. He says flower essences from this family deal with themes of spiritual integration, wholeness, integrity and the development of the spiritual Self.
Sagebrush has been used for spiritual purposes by Native peoples throughout the Southwest for millennia. It’s the most common herb used in smudging, an ancient practice intended to clear negative toxic energy from around an individual or in an environment. It was also used medicinally to rid the body of parasites, stop internal bleeding and aid in the healing of infection.
The Sagebrush plant group Artemisia is named for Artemisia II, the sister and wife of king Mausolus, the ancient ruler of Caria in southwestern Anatolia. Artemis is also the name of the ancient sun god Apollo’s sister, the goddess of the moon, the hunt and wild nature.
Queen Artemis showed a lot of her namesake’s spirit in the years after her husband’s death. She took over the throne and brilliantly defended her country from marauding invaders who hoped to take advantage of the situation.
Unfortunately she is far more well-known for her extraordinary grief at his passing. She is said to have mixed her husband’s ashes in her drink, and to have gradually pined away during the two years that she survived him. She had a giant monument built in his honor that was once listed as one of the Seven Wonders of the Ancient World. The word “mausoleum” comes from this. But she was also a botanist and medical researcher and that’s why the plant group is named after her.
Think of someone who couldn’t let go of her life long attachment to her brother/husband and you’ll get the gist of what Sagebrush flower essence meant to help one overcome. It helps one find a new self-identity when the old one is now gone.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: SHERYL KARAS has a Master’s Degree in Transpersonal Psychology and has explored a wide variety of healing techniques including Flower Essence Therapy, aromatherapy, herbal medicine and Master Level Reiki. She uses everything she knows in the creation of her healing perfume oils. You can buy some through her online shops at Mama Love Products.com, through Etsy, or the brick and mortar stores that carry her perfumes.
Art credits: Top photo: courtesy of the US Forest Service. At right: http://www.clipart.com.
Posted by admin on Nov 1, 2010
©2010 by Donna Cunningham, MSW
The signs of the zodiac are divided into four elements—fire, earth, air, and water. This is Part Two of a discussion of flower essences for the four elements. If your chart is overly strong in one element—or conversely, that element is largely absent—you may find that returning to the essences described in these two articles serves to center you. The odd thing about essences is that they often serve to balance both ends of the spectrum–too much or too little.
For instance, I have seen Sunflower work wonders for people with overly strong Suns (and thus too insistent on being the center, too egotistical, etc) and also for people with challenged Suns such as a Saturn or Neptune conjunction who lack confidence and self-esteem. In either case, it seems to help people love themselves but also to recognize the strengths and contributions of others.
Last week we saw some possible essences for the Fire and Earth signs in Part One. Below are essences for Air and Water. Read the rest of this entry »